The other day my Co-Star app told me, “Get comfortable being alone.” and I couldn’t help but laugh. I have lived my whole life alone. Of course I have my friends and family, so i’m never lonely, but I have always been “alone” or people like to tell me i’m “free spirited”, which I think they say to make me feel better LOL
Honestly, I think there’s a stigma against aloneness. It’s not a bad thing, it’s not sad, and it can be a choice. I ALWAYS get asked, “So Katie… do you have a boyfriend yet?”
AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS: sometimes the journey isn’t about romantic love, sometimes it’s about healing, growth, and self-love. Figuring it out on your own. Learning to live independently. My journey looks a LOT different than everyone else’s in my life, but that’s okay.
Being alone has given me the opportunity to know myself better- I mean really peel back the layers and understand what I truly desire and believe in, and to grow into who I want to be without pressure from anyone else. It’s about learning to love yourself without relying on others to love you. I feel like I care for others better because I have learned to care for myself better. You really learn to be on your own team and to own your self-worth.
And there’s no point in being bitter about it. I have learned to have faith and trust in the universe and God, or whatever or whoever you believe in. It can be scary, the thought of being alone, but it is not the worst thing to happen to you. It never will be. You will find someone in due time, I promise. There is a whole world out there and you shouldn’t settle just because you don’t want to be alone.
So if for whatever reason you are terrified of being alone, i’m here to tell you it isn’t all that bad, coming from someone who has years of experience with it. In fact, it’s cloudless. Soak it up and take advantage of being in charge of you and only you. Get to know yourself and truly care for yourself instead of seeking that from someone else.
Being alone can be a choice, and it’s a pretty dang good one.